Reviewer: Jenne  |   Date of Review: 01-Feb-2006

I finally got the DVD player hooked up in my bedroom – something that I highly suggest couples doing – and finally got some alone time to watch my assigned DVDs. Today’s assignment was Ultimate Massage, The Art of Sexual Touch. This is one of the Loving Sex instructional videos, and since I had read Jenne’s review of Lovers Massage I was curious how this video was different from the one she watched.

The is a 60 minute video which opens with a scene where a wife meets her husband at the door, telling him she has a special Christmas present for him. They then rush from the door to the bedroom and pop in the tape. The opening was a bit abrupt, but I suppose they had to get to watching the video somehow. Once in the bedroom with the tape running, we are allowed to see the video they are watching with begins with an introduction by Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld, the author of the famous best seller MALE SEXUALITY. There was one statement he made that I thought captured the essence of this video. “Erotic massage is a way to wake up the sexual sensual self. Sensual massage is not foreplay. The goal is not intercourse. The goal is not even orgasm. If you happen to have intercourse before, during, or after your sensual massage, that’s fine. But that’s not really the goal. The goal is simply to experienced pleasure.”

The main difference between the Ultimate Massage video and the Lover’s Massage video is that I believe the Ultimate Massage video is more intimate. While the Lover’s Massage focuses on whole body massage, the Ultimate Massage video centers primarily on genital massage. The video is broken down into five parts: erotic frontal massage, Male genital massage, female genital massage, practice erotic frontal massage, and practice genital massage.

The first scene is the woman massaging the man. While instructions are given in the background, the woman follows through with the actions. It’s quite sexy to watch how she strokes and touches his body, including the different things she does to his penis. Now in all honesty, if I had read the instruction in a book without seeing the video, I might have thought some of the suggestions could cause discomfort – The Serpent, for example (you’ll have to watch the video to find out what it is). But when the instructions are given and I saw her carry them out, it made a connection in my brain that said, “Okay, that’s what they mean.” Then the video changes and we see the man carry out much of the same things that were done to the woman, along with explicit direction on vaginal massage and instructions on finding her g-spot – which I felt would be very helpful to some viewers.

After he has finished, our couple watching the video turns it off and they proceed to try out all the things they learned. It’s not exactly the same, but it helps to reinforce all the different moves, and it shows you a couple of different ways to change the routine without affecting the eventual outcome – which is to please your lover. I do admit that I love the fact that these people appear to be really enjoying themselves. When he’s giving her the g-spot massage you see her body twitch and jump, you hear her moans, just like it happens in real life. And when she is giving him the penis massage you actually see him ejaculate – not the cheesy sort of porn money shot, but a tasteful depiction of a man enjoying himself to orgasm.

What’s it all add up to? I think this is a great video for couples wanting to learn how to better explore their lover’s bodies and for those who have a goal to just bring pleasure to their partners. This is not the kind of video that centers on ‘getting your own.’ This is about using your senses, especially touch to tease and arouse your partner. I would highly recommend it.